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Yet Another Tragedy

By December 15, 2012

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Every time we think we've heard the worst possible story possible, we eventually hear another one. That was the case yesterday when we learned of the shootings at Sandy Hook Elementary School in Newtown, Connecticut.

While we don't have all the details yet of what led the killer to take a gun to an elementary school and shoot young, defenseless children, we are hearing some familiar details. The shooter was smart and socially awkward. Once again, our gifted teens are going to be looked at with some suspicion, as though they might be the next one to go to a rampage at a school.

As if it weren't hard enough to help our children cope with such a tragedy, we might also have to help our teens cope with the references to this smart kid with problems. It's not that we don't want to understand what happened, what led this young man to commit such a horrendous act, but pointing out how smart he was isn't really helping us to understand, unless the suggestion is that being smart can lead a person to commit mass murder.

But that's really a conversation for another day.  For now we really must help our children, particularly our young, emotionally sensitive ones, come to terms with this tragedy. And we must keep the families and friends of those who died in our hearts and our prayers.
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December 16, 2012 at 12:08 am
(1) Katrina says:

Whilst I agree that the most important immediate thing is that the survivors and others effected get all the love and support they need, I do believe that his “intelligence” and “social awkwardness” are very important to this young man’s story. It is vital we look at why and how this could have been prevented. My opinion is, this young man was in a great deal of emotional pain/anger/hostility, aimed mostly at his mother hence how he killed her and then moved onto a school that he associated with her and perhaps his own pain suffered at school due to not fitting in and not having his needs met. I am in no way excusing his actions I am simply pointing out that it is society that has failed this young man and consequently his victims.

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